Clitoral Stimulator 101
For many men, the clitoris or clit for short, is key to satisfying women. Some women are incapable of orgasming without clitoral stimulation. This bundle of more than 8,000 nerves is an incredibly sensitive and pleasurable spot.
Before we get started, let's just make sure you have the prerequisites to understand. Check out The Basics of Female Anatomy and The Clitoris: What is it & How Does it Work? if you are not familiar.
If you don't typically have much foreplay, you should change that. Arousing your partner with gentle touches, massaging, and telling them you are turned on by them is always a good idea! In the case of the clitoris it may be especially necessary to build up to direct stimulation.
It is very exciting to bring a new toy into the bedroom! When it comes to the clitoris, it is best to start slowly and softly. This stimulator will mimic sucking in the soft silicone opening. You can always increase the pressure and intensity, but over stimulation will be unpleasant. If you are unsure, talk to her. Tell her you want to give her the most pleasure possible, maybe let her guide you the first time so you know what she enjoys.
Try moving it around a little. Gently rock the soft silicone tip around the edges of the clitoris. Some women might find direct contact too overwhelming at first. The suction will have a stronger feel if the tip creates a seal on her skin. Again, begin slowly and build. As she becomes increasingly aroused, more blood will flow into her genitals and greater sensation will happen. Pay attention to her body & let her guide you with her body movements.
You may want to use the clitoral stimulator for part of your love making, or as the main event. You could use it to aid in giving her oral sex or while penetrating her with other toys or your cock or fingers. The first time you may want to not have expectations about how it will go; let her decide.
If your partner doesn't typically orgasm with vaginal sex, a clitoral stimulator might be just the thing to ensure that she does! Use it during or just after if you finish ahead of her. Make her pleasure a priority and she will be hooked.
When she climaxes she will likely have one of two immediate reactions. She might contract muscles and draw the stimulater tighter to her body while it is still sucking at full speed. The other possibility that I am more familiar with is that she has such intense sensation that she wants that thing OFF! She does not mind it touching her body, but does not want the suction on. I tend to shut off any toy as soon as she cums, then put a little bit of firm pressure over her pubic mound while she moves through her orgasm. It gives her time to enjoy it thoroughly while I get aroused by the pleasure she is experiencing.
We have used a few different versions of clitoral stimulators. All were roughly similar. The INMI Shegasm is a nice blend of features that make it a great option. Rechargeable means you don't need to mess with batteries, always a plus. It's waterproof, so the shower is an option. The silicon tip is soft making it compatible with more women. It is also a good blend of quality and value. My partner also likes that the intensity is on a dial and can be adjusted quickly.
Above I mentioned not having a script or plan going into using any toy. That was from experience. I had a vision of seeing her explode with a blended orgasm using the clitoral stimulator on her while we had traditional sex. That did not happen.
I began as described above with longer foreplay than touching the device to the inside of her upper thighs. My head was resting just above her knee and I worked closer to the inside of her leg. Eventually I ran it along the crease below her ass and up along the outside of her lips. After a few minutes I set the stimulator to the side and retraced the outside of her lips with my tongue. The sensation had her aroused and a slow finger parting her lips was wet with anticipation. I slid my tongue between her lips and ran it slowly to her clit. I made a wide "O" shape with my mouth and traced around the clit being careful not to touch it.
I then brought the stimulator back without it turned on and placed it over her clit and checked in with her to be sure it was comfortable. I slid my left index finger between her lips and up to her G-Spot to apply light pressure. I turned the stimulator on to its lowest setting. She adjusted a bit and we were off! It proved to be a great sensation and she began giving me positive feedback.
I had to be careful to move with her body to not overstimulate. Before long took my finger out of her to not rush her to orgasm without me. She loves to have her nipple pinched and sucked, so I gave the stimulator to her and went to work slid up next to her pinching and tugging her nipples and rubbing the bottom of my now half erect cock on her side.
Before long she asked me to be inside of her and I moved between her legs. she took the toy away and I slid my cock between her lips and over her clit. Sliding the sensitive area under the head across her clit is one of the most amazing feelings!
Everything was thoroughly hard & lubricated by all of this and I pushed the head half way into her. I love when she settles down onto my cock. It just feels like every inch is amazing for us both. Once I was in her I brought the stimulator back onto her clit. She absolutely loved it!
I on the other hand, couldn't really thrust into her without bumping the toy in a way that wasn't uncomfortable for her. I backed out of her leaving that sensitive area just under the head in direct contact just inside her. From here I was able to slide my cock in and out just an inch or so while pushing down creating tremendous sensations for me, and allowing her to enjoy the stimulator fully.
Her climax came very quickly and was not blended, but clitoral. She was however incredibly satisfied. I know for sure when she has waves of contractions in her vagina. I pushed into her deeply and let those waves draw an orgasm from me while I gripped her thighs tightly.
In later sessions we found that the same routine, but doggie-style, allows her to manage the toy without interfering with the regular thrusts of penetrative sex. It is a much better approach and can lead to a blended orgasm, which is even more intense.
This device is also great for bringing her to orgasm with oral sex, or through mutual masterbation. Truth be told, I think it brings her to orgasm too quickly. I only like to use it during foreplay and then move on, or if I misread her and orgasm without her, it is a great tool for being sure she gets off too. I believe this is also her go-to for solo sessions when she is looking of the orgasm and not interested in the process. For all of these reasons, I encourage you to have a Shegasm Clitoral Stimulator within arms reach of your bed!